10 Things That Bother Me
Here are the first ten bothersome things -- off the top of my head:
1. Being told what to do. Like when I receive a beautiful forward in the mail and it tells me that I have to send it to ten of my friends.
2. Labels on people, as if they weren’t people. For instance, Illegal aliens. What a terrible expression. How can people live in this beautiful country and not want to share it. It seems like the world always needs someone less fortunate to pick on.
3. Friends who move away from town.
4. When someone unsubscribes to Heavenletters. Rare, but it happens. I know I will have arrived when I don’t get disgruntled about it.
5. When someone says they are going to do something and then they don’t, especially when it’s me. Oh, the times I’ve vowed to clean out a closet, and a year later it isn’t done.
6. When someone comes to my door and I’m still in my bathrobe. It doesn’t matter that this could be early afternoon.
7. Sticky weed. It disguises itself as the plant it is near. It’s really a cute thing, but it has underground roots that travel and it also spreads by seed, and persnickety sticky weed wants to take over the whole yard.
8. When someone doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say.
9. When I don’t open my mouth and say something, and too often when I do.
10. When someone else is an expert on everything!
Okay, I read Heavenletters. I know I should turn these all around. So here are ten things I’m glad about:
1. That there a people who want to share even with the people they don’t know.
2. That there are people who truly appreciate and welcome everyone.
3. Friends who keep in touch wherever they are.
4. That so many people subscribe to Heavenletters.
5. All the people who always follow through and the times I do too.
6. When I am ready for company.
7. That everything grows easily in my yard.
8. All the people who truly listen.
9. The occasions when I know what to say and when to keep silent.
10. Fortunately, that there are people who do know much more than I do!
But here’s one more thing that bothers me:
Why is it that what bothers us makes better reading than what pleases us?
Comments
Dear Gloria,
I enjoyed reading this post of yours.
Very Honest!!!I resonate with your Third point
of Friends leaving town and not keeping in
touch.I got some friends who did that too
and it feels soooooo Frustrating but
thanks to my Deep Breathing sessions,
I get to keep my balance.
Dear Shahid, thank you for your post.
I see that I did not make my third point clear. I did just edit it to make it clearer. I am grateful to you for pointing that out to me, dear Shahid.
I meant that friends move away and just aren't physically available any more. I am blessed with friends who keep in touch. If I have lost touch with friends, it's because I didn't keep up. But that didn't mean I didn't care. It just meant I couldn't keep up.
With love and blessings,
Gloria
Friends are friends if you keep in touch or not. I visited a friend unexpected after ten years and when he saw me after our ge'day his first words were it is about time you came to seeus and we carried on as we were ten years ago.If that does not happen there is no true friendship from one side at least
Correction: 10 things that bother your EGO! Your own loving, positive response immediately put your ego where it belongs. I disagree that what bothers us makes better reading...it just stokes our egos and entertains. The antics of ego are very amusing when viewed from a distance! The truly "better" reading was in the yin and yang of your first 10 and second 10 taken together.
Light and Love,
Jo
That's an easy one , negative thoughts and communtary always shift blame onto others and absolves the blamer of any resposibility. "Oh well what can you do?" It is far easier to blame than to take charge....
Dear Gloria,
I thought I should give a try to answering this one.
It is not generally true that what bothers us makes better reading than what pleases us. I look at it like this:
There are writings that comfort, and there are writings that shake up.
If you recently underwent a lot of changes (for example a recent illness), then words of comfort are much better suited to the situation.
If you stood too much in one place (afraid of moving forward), then words that shake up are better suited to the situation.
To make a contrast, I'd say your writings in general are of the comforting kind, wheres mine in general are of the shaking up kind.
Neither is better or worse, but specific situations might require more of one than the other.
If people unsubscribe, don't feel bad; not for yourself for getting less attention, nor for them for not accepting your words.
For their spiritual growth, they might need different truth - and there are more than 6 billion spiritual leaders on this Earth, each leading through the beingness of their lives!
In the end, this empowers you personally as well.
I'd also like to address what you wrote as the 10th thing that bothers you: when someone else is an expert on everything.
I have this problem too sometimes; I see others and I feel inadequate, and to prove this is not so, I shift into the opposite - being better than tham at that something.
This who-is-better contest is not particularly useful.
As a quick and efficient way to deal with it, I accept myself as the best that can be, and also as the worst that can be.
This way I can be 'omnipresent' on every step of the 'contest ladder' - and the fear is gone.
Love and best wishes!
Nandor Gyerman
www.AeriaGloris.com
Gloria,
That is quite the list of unpleasant things, and some of which I can agree with and some of them, I didn't really think about.
If I may, one of the things that gets me, and you can add this to your list, is people who nitpick and degrade me, and, generally think that they are better than me just because they are higher on the social standing. Why do people think that they can do that?
If anyone can answer that, I would be grateful.
One comment that I would make, and you have probably heard this before, is: Don't Sweat the small stuff.
Thanks and God bless you.
Richard Bester
Question: Do such people come up and say, "I am better than you because I am higher up on the social ladder."?
When one is the small enough to fit through the eye of a needle, one becomes a very unlikely target. A target that small can only be struck by a special arrow coming from a very special archer. The archer who has the skill to strike such a small target, can only be the Supreme Archer. When one is struck by the Supreme Archer, it can only be with an arrow of love. Make yourself small enough so that only God can strike you.