There is a good question someone brought up recently. This was from someone who offered his services to Heavenletters in total sincerity. There was something I needed help with, and the person was happy to.
Between the time I asked and he agreed, he had been hit with an emotional crisis, the sort of heaviness and depression that seems to descend on us for no reason, but hangs there and seemingly won't go away.
This dear person said it this way:
I cannot do anything when I am feeling bad, cause the feeling of that "badness" is from the very very past. It is from the very separation from God. At that time, I am almost paralyzed mentally.
I do understand. Sometimes life just gets too much for us.
I remember what a dear friend said to me many many years ago. He said:
When life gets to be too much, punt.
What a revelation that was for me. If we're at the place where we can't take on more, it's okay.
At the same time, I also feel the opposite! I emailed back to this person:
At the same time, my heart tells me it would be good for you to get your focus onto something else other than how you're feeling, so it also wouldn't be bad for you to do this computer thing regardless of how you feel.
I think this is really the virtue of having a job where we have to go to and do whatever it is that we have to do. Working at a job pretty much doesn't let us go by how we feel. I would go so far as to say that a regular job saves us. I suppose a job teaches us that we don't go by our moods, no matter how awful our mood may be at a particular time. What I think is that the boundary of a job gets us out of some of our boundaries!
And that brings up the difference between how we feel and following our heart. God in Heavenletters™ always tells us to follow our heart. I am sure he doesn't mean to follow our moods. I don't think he means for us to always take the easy way out.
Yes, of course, sometimes we do indeed have to punt, as my friend said. And sometimes we have to stretch. How do we know when?