The Topic of Happiness

Hi Marko here high definition technicolour multifarious greetings.

This is my second entry here. I'm newer to Heaven Letters Inc., but I've been blogging on Neale Donald Walsch's site for years and continue to do so. So hello or heaven-o to all.

"You know, beloved, are you happy or are you unhappy – these are not questions to ask yourself. Ask, “Am I God’s delight?” and you will always know the answer is Yes, and what then can you be unhappy about?"

Well Yea, you me, all of us may be "God's delight" but that's kind of an objective truth that isn't going to change no matter what happens right?

Our emotions change all the time. A roller coaster for the drama queens and drama kings and more steady for others.

On a scale of 1 to 10 I'm usually a pretty steady 8 working and playing to move uP to 9 and 10.

Of course I practice being a Master Appreciator and Master Blesser, and that helps!

One really revolutionary thought that came from a coach and friend was this question.
It really startled me when it was asked.

My friend asked me "Can you be ok about not being ok?"

That was like huh? and WoW!
By this I mean, at first it seems counter intuitive no?

However, this is how I currently interpret it.

That if you are ok about not being ok that, that openness, that allowing of not rigidly defining how your happiness has to show uP allows it to show uP more easily and quickly. Of course you are not attached to how and when it shows uP either.

By being ok at not being ok you diminish the unhappy drama that may have otherwise shown uP emotionally. To me it allows the happier okness to come in more quickly and easily. Make sense?

Well just thinking aloud a bit regarding your quote.

Now, regarding the desire to be thinner and younger I'd like you to consider this possibility, if I may.

What would happen if you were to Feel and Imagine/Visualize being thinner/younger and included the good feelings that gives you? Doing so with little effort as well?

You do this until there is a shift in your thinking and emotions regarding this. That shift and relief is what you are really looking for and who knows what possibilities will happen/manifest in doing so!

I spent a year or so Imagining (I was not real passionate on doing this it was very casual but fairly consistent) about steaming my organic vegetables rather than microwaving them.

It was it seemed a small thing. Yet I kept microwaving them.

Yet in time, the good feeling thinking about and seeing my self, even in a casual way enjoying steaming the vegetables did happen. It took awhile, but it did happen.

I do not think beauty and vanity are superficial.

They, like in Hollywood can become off the charts imbalanced, anorexia and addiction to plastic surgery, sure. But wanting to look and feel good/better etc. is not superficial, not in my book anyway.

Jumbo blessings to all.

My Dear Glorita,

So glad you found the answer, the thoughts to answer my question? I will look for more questions but they tend to arise spontaneously and they seem to cause a blog or blogs of response.

Regarding your age and weight. I love you just the way you are. I don't think I'd feel the same way about you if you were much thinner or much younger. And I like the way I feel about you. I like the place you hold in my life. If you were younger than me I would not look to you so much for your wisdom and depth that I do now. If you were thin you wouldn't emit that special heartful feeling that a big bosomed woman does. You are perfect and beautiful the way you are. I think you know that too. Just thought I'd put words to it.

I'm so glad that happiness doesn't matter. Wouldn't it be wonderful if more people got that. How the concept of depression would lose it's grip and how pill companies would be out of business with just a flip of the switch, perspective.

Thanks for the kefir babies,

Dianita

Well, er, hi everyone, I just want to throw in that if someone is taught to feel unhappy early enough and thoroughly enough they will be unhappy until they aren't. Finding out that there is nothing to be unhappy about and then feeling extra unhappy about continued feelings of unjustified unhappines isn't going to help very much. These people may not be unhappy "about" anything nameable. But if they have God's words in Heavenletters™ and find them deeply trustworthy because they don't have anything doctrinal about them and are ever fresh, ever surprising, never routine, then at least they can stop feeling bad about feeling bad. They can tell themselves that "I can't yet see how, but it's going to be all right." Oh, and how they love to be with happy people. They may even try out their skips secretly (provided they are young and thin enough).

Why make everything so difficult, There is a choice!!!! God has told you so many times, If something happens that the world thinks that you should be unhappy about. I tell the world to go and take a jump! I will decide if I am happy or unhappy and not the world. And I am happy within myself as GOD tells you in NR. 2785 "BLESSINGS ARE YOU" When anyone asks me if I am Happy My stock answer is Any Happier and I will be in Heaven. By The way L love You ALL Jack

Jochen, your comments really hit home as a "look for the gray cloud inside the silver lining" kind of person that I used to be. It is difficult to overcome that kind of indoctrination. It's an ingrained distrust that happiness is (A) real and (B) can last. Well, I found out it IS real, and, like Jack says, it's our choice to be happy or not.

For me (and I can only speak for me), it took a tremendous leap of faith at an incredibly difficult period of my life. For the first time ever, I reached out to someone for help where before, I would have simply assumed that no one would be interested or willing to extend themselves to me. I did and SHE did. Shortly after, I also found Heavenletters and another TREMENDOUS source of help through here.

I look so forward to your comments here. Your point of view is so real and insightful. You said people read Heavenletters, to get the reassurance. As you said, “I can’t yet see how, but it’s going to be all right.” Absolutely right, and that is a very wise choice.

Indeed I do. I very well remember the time (a long, long time) of feeling that my life was not my own. That I had no choice in how my life was played out, that it was all due to "other" -- other people, other circumstances, other anything. Mostly I felt that life was a game and everybody else but me knew the rules. That life was a play and everybody else but me knew their part.

Took a long time for me to realize that I was an active participant, and an even longer time for me to take responsibility for ALL my life. Only then did I start to recognize that all actions/reactions were my choice to make. Only I could decide to be happy or not happy. That great amorphous "other" did not have any power over me.

Of course, that was the scary part. That taking responsibility for past and present. Not being able to blame, say, a flat tire for making my day go wrong. Not making excuses for my own bad behavior. Not saying, "well, that's just the way I am," because I know knew I had a choice to change that old pattern.

Whew! Didn't quite realize all that was in there. I'll close by saying that Gloria and Heavenletters had a big hand in keeping those lessons in the forefront of my mind. To learn such hard lessons in such a nurturing and loving way is a lesson all in itself.