The two magic words I've always heard about are: "Thank you." Most everyone says,"Thank you." Little children are made to say it. You know, thank you has become routine. Everybody knows those words. They're said all over the place, with or without true meaning. To say "Thank you" is a custom.
It was just yesterday that I became aware of the value of the two magic words I want to tell you about. The power of these two magic words sank into me on a Skype call with my daughter.
She was telling me about one of the cat behavior shows she watches. (Lauren, when you read this blog entry, please give credit to the show, okay? Give us the link and everything.)
There was this nice family who had a few cats. Lately one of the cats was having panic attacks that scared the family and the other cats. The troubling cat ran around the room in tremendous fear, and, as I remember, did some attacking. Once a peaceful cat was now acting out in a disturbing way.
The intuitive cat person, star of the show, made a house call. He or she observed this cat and its seemingly irrational behavior. What the cat psychic person discovered was that the cat had become blind.
Just that someone understood the reason behind the cat's behavior eased the cat's panic. A light had gone on for the family. Instead of being a troubling cat, the cat was now seen as a troubled cat. Instead of condemning the cat's behavior, instead of scolding, instead of thinking or saying:"What's the matter with you, cat?" their understanding of what was behind the misbehavior made all the difference in the world to the family and to the frightened cat. For the family, they no longer were so upset by the cat's seemingly irrational behavior. For the cat, he picked up the change in his family's awareness. His inner panic became less, simply because the family now understood.
The two magic words do not even have to be said. Just that someone understands is enough. Just understanding by itself gives comfort and eases hearts.
I always desired the three words "I love you" and, when real, they are a blessing.
Right now, look into my eyes and say the two words, "I understand," and that will do just fine.