Why do I have this issue?
I understand that we all have issues, and we have different issues.
I have an issue that is none of my business. I know it, yet that doesn't change how I feel. I over-react. I get up in arms.
This issue is when someone prefers to be anonymous. There is something about anonymous that drives me up a wall.
There are many positions I take, and when someone feels a different way, I have no issue with it. So, someone feels a different way? What's it to me? What do I care?
But when it comes to anonymous, like posting anonymously, I'm a sorehead about it.
I try to think what exactly anonymous represents to me that I should take exception to it. I guess it means to me that it's hiding. I must have a negative view about hiding. If someone thinks a certain way, why would they hide that they feel a certain way? Is there something they are afraid of? Why would they be embarrassed?
Honestly, the anonymous things I've read seem like nothing at all. What's the big deal?!!! Of course, it's big deal to me that anyone chooses to be anonymous!!!
I wonder: What kind of attention do they think their opinion is going to call to them anyway? None, it seems to me. Why is anonymous a big issue with me?
I love it when people use their real names and their first and last names.
I don't get why someone wants to be anonymous. So, okay, I don't get it. There are plenty of things I don't get, yet I don't have issues with them!
I tried not to write this blog entry, and I kinda tried not to post it. I know it's not wise to vent in public, yet here I am.
Way back when I was teaching school, I had a feedback box in my classes, and the kids could make all the suggestions they wanted except I required that they had to sign their names. And they did. It was good all way around that they signed their names. It was structured so they did honor to themselves and were respectful to me.
I have changed in so many ways, yet I can't seem to get beyond reacting to this issue that isn't worth it.
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Dear Gloria, thank you for being frank to us/me about this issue. So I did it well, don't I:)?
Yesterday I decided, to take away the last-name because it looks kinda formal to me now. I am pretty new at this heavenletter-homepage although I read the HL since 2 or 3 years now (Teophil sent them to me). And as you can see, it is so good to me, just to write down, about how the daily HL affects me. I am not shure, what's going on with me, I just have the trust, something is going on with my inner constitution so that I really want to be changed in the right direction step by step. And yes, there is a changing going on in how I react to my next. I cannot do that, while being anonymus. I just can't . I am curious: Is there anybody who can?
Yours Uta
The opposite of anonymous is putting your full name! And you must know I love that! Don't change, beloved Uta Steger-de Gruyter!
Hello Uta & Gloria
I wonder if in some cases the people who go anonymous have a low self esteem and do not beleive what they have to say is important...I am sure not all....but a percentage of the anonymous people feel this way....just a thought...Heather
Hello dear Heather, thank you for mentioning my name! I can envision that some think it's not important what they have to say.
For me it is important just to tell God somehow, what is happening with me. And also I trust in Glorias words and I just want to share my experience and look forward, what others might say. But for me Gods words are what's important, not my words. I just want to point that out.
Uta
What you did with your class is so important at an early age to instill this appreciation of what another person has to say....I am sure none of your students enter blogs anonymously!!
That would make me very happy, dear Heather!
I also want to comment that the reason you give may very well be one reason why people like to be anonymous.
It is not always easy to deal with issues that we don't understand about ourself.
Every now and then, God mentions, in a way or another, that everything that irritates us in someone else is a projection of something inside ourself that irritates us about ourself.
I go along with Gloria to say that we can overcome most issues. But the ones we don't understand are more puzzling.
Is it a karmic residue?
Thanks Gloria for putting that issue on the carpet or on the table.
Dear Normand,
first I want to say that I like your comments very much. Although what I have read from you, was not that easy to understand to me. But I understand this I believe and I believe you are right about the projection, because I can see this projections in my life too. I just wanted to let you know.
Because nobody mentioned it yet: I 've seen in the Internet, that people don't tell their real name, but a fictive one, as if they want to slip in another role or personality. This is new to me, maybe I should try, how it feels. But I don't really like it.
God bless you all.
Uta
Dear Gloria, You ask why... There's one answer in today's Heavenletter: God says "You are your own offender when you take offense and hang on to it," and God says: "When you take offense, and take the offense you do, it is an ego matter. ... Beloveds, you worry about your importance when you are not yet convinced of your true value and, therefore, need more bolstering from the outside. Will you love yourself as I do love you?"
It all applies to me. I'm asking myself God's question today, Will I love myself as God loves me? When?
Love to all,
Margaret
Yes, dear Margaret, it's my issue. You'd think I didn't have bigger things on my mind! Absolutely, what you say is true. if I loved myself anywhere as near as much as God loves me, would I care about what anybody else does? Meanwhile, my disapproval remains, the same way I'm irritated with spam. Really I love that people post. I want people to post. I would love to be done with all disapproval, yet there it is.
I have to go on a other name as your computer will not accept me so instead of Jack I now call myself Jaap my original dutch name so what is the issue ? Love to all Jack
Beloved Jack, I almost had put you in the original blog as an innocent! The forum program would no longer recognize you as Jack. You had no choice but to post as you do. Dear Friend, you always make me smile. Besides, I would know you anywhere!
The signature is all: Love to all Jack!
This is a Cosmic Heavenletter I choose today. No.1543. See what God says there about anonymous
"It is good to care about those far from you. And it is good to care about those close to you. You may not be able to help everyone directly, but you can be of service to someone today. Do not be shy to extend your heart. And, if you are shy, then give anonymously. Giving is the one instance of anonymity I endorse. Leave a flower then on your neighbor's doorstep."
Hi Gloria! xoxoxo
This was not me, but Anonymous was funny here.
Santhan Naidoo
Some people are stalked, or need to hide from a controlling spouse/whatever. They still post to share in knowledge, whether they get "credit" or not.
Beloved Anon, you certainly make me smile! You make such a good point -- they post to share in knowledge.
I just found this is a very recently written down Heavenletter. It has no title or number yet. Will come out in almost three months!
Here it is:
Now, dear Anon, won't you tell us who you are?!